How to keep Notorious Kids in Check?
Often parents have the default tendency to perceive that their own kids are innocent.
By this, we mean that whenever there is a fight or any such argument amongst children. most parents blindly believe their own kid, concluding that their kid is innocent and the fault is of the rest of the world.
This comes out due to innate and extremely intimate parental bond.
But Is it always the case?
Let’s re-evaluate some of the alarming questions that parents are aware of but subconsciously do not realise.
Is your kid always telling the truth?
It’s a notion to believe and in fact, it’s a good sign of your bond between each other. But as children, it is a tendency to lie to avoid discussing further on a topic.
For example, if your kid is not allowed to stay up after school hours and you have your ground rules that he/she must be home, right after school. Whereas a birthday party presents itself and everybody is going, In these situations it is commonly found amongst teenagers to lie to their parents or guardian.
You must not blame yourself or your upbringing in such scenarios.
It is very common and an open-hearted conversation and relation with your children can help you resolve this over time.
Kids who have the knack of finding themselves in trouble are hard to convince since its difficult to get through to them with just a few friendly chats.
Therapies do assist, hence there isn’t any shame to ask for expert help when needed.
Is it wrong to defend my kid in school fights?
Defending and supporting are two very different emotion which plays a vital role in parenthood.
When kids are getting involved in school fights, it’s an endless visit to the principal’s office that gets to our nerves since we are paying the bulk amount of money in order to teach our kids discipline and if the school is unable to teach them it’s a matter to re-look and re-discuss with teachers.
When you get a call from school in such cases, parents blatantly defend their kid even when they know in their sane mind that their kid is at fault there. Not only will your kid repeat the same thing over and over again but also learn values of life and learn how he/she should treat people.
When you know your kid is at fault in a situation, be there to support so that it helps them to go through the punishment and overcome his/her mistakes rather than blaming the school to take full responsibility and abruptly defending your kid’s bad behaviour, as you are encouraging bad attitude development at a tender age which is irreversible at a later stage in life.
If I find out my Child is actually the Bully?
This is a parent’s nightmare as you don’t want to see your once very innocent little kid turning out to be a badly raised adolescent. A child could have come across an impactful group of friends or by TV series or movies that influence his/her ideology that in turn is shaping them into an unkind person, indifferent towards someone else’s sufferings.
Certain things are not in the parent’s control, but If it has gone out of your control and your kid is the school bully that everyone is scared of; therapy, behaviour development sessions, social volunteering, re-evaluating friends circle, active participation in sport etc are measures that need to be taken.
These are certainly helpful along with tons of patience.
How to keep my Notorious Kid Involved in good practice?
When a kid is mischievous, they behave arrogantly, act adventurous, tries to do the forbidden thing like staying up late after school to be with their friend’s circle, hiding a lot from parents, trying out different experience every day.
At this stage, a family gathering, a family vacation sounds like a bad experience to the kid.
Find out when your kid’s talent lies and if you encourage enough, your child will want to expertise in the field and the lessons can begin.
Finding the right teacher who can understand children’s weaknesses and strengths are essential.
Take out time from your daily schedule to be genuinely interested and involved in checking the progress of the lessons.